Jbroken, what has helped me is remembering that I am an amazing woman that could make another man so happy someday. I have thought of all of my positive qualities that H is apparently taking for granted. I know what he wants: he wants a woman that is sports crazy like him, that will go out with his "buddies" and drink, crack nasty jokes all day long and not be so needy. He basically wants someone to [censored] all day long and be "one of the guys". He has clearly shown me he knows nothing about marriage, and what it takes to stay happy in the marriage. He doesn't want to fix his end, because that would require work, and he just wants it thrown into his lap. NOPE.
I have grown so much in the last 2 years of my life, I have become so spiritual and I see the world completely different, I have become somewhat of an activist for positive change in the world. I listen to music that has meaning, I read books that help me grow- he sits on the couch and follows hollywood and facebook all day. He doesn't want a woman like me. I think it might make him feel inferior?
Anyway, I digressed. start thinking about all of your positive qualities. Start thinking about all you have to offer, usually I would say get your ego out of the way, but in this case, groom it a little bit. you are a loving, caring, honest man, (from what I have seen here) you have a lot to offer a woman that WANTS to be with you and cherish you. I know it's hard to think about another woman right now. I don't like the feeling of having to picture another man in my life, other than H. but, I have literally started putting together my ideal man in my head. it keeps my mind off my H and actually excited about meeting someone new someday. If H decides he wants to stay and make things work, great. but i can't sit around and wait. I preparing mentally so that if it does happen, I'm already halfway disconnected.
