Hi Irish, gosh that's a bit of a whirlwind for you all. I read her note to your girls as saying:

You need to get over this
My life has changed (OM) and you need to accept this
I don't expect to be shouted at

I can see why your girls may not respond well to that.

Fwiw, I think she is creating a fair amount of drama - and I also agree with Roist & think you may want to step back before replying. Why get caught up in her drama?

She is dealing with a lot with her Dad, and doesn't have great coping skills either - that's a shame. Plus her clumsy attempts to reconnect with her daughters...

I would offer less to her, and practice compassion in your (brief) replies too. Maybe post here and await a reply before responding?

Glad you all had a good weekend and the parade went well 😃

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus