Wife left two days before our anniversary! Part 2

[Dawgs]

I have let her go. But, the silence is deafening and the limbo unbearable. I everyone here says 'time is a gift' but is it really? I'm finding it a bit hard to see it that way.

Time is most definitely a gift. Its how you use it that's important. You can either sit and wallow in pity or become the best you can. Which is more attractive?

I don't feel like I'm holding on to a memory. I know that IF, and that's a big IF, we were ever to reconcile, our marriage would have to be different. I would have to be different. She would have to be different. We would have to different. Take the good into the future. And leave the bad behind in the past.

First and foremost, if you to were to ever reconcile it would most certainly have to be a brand-new union because the old one is dead and buried and no retrieving it. Can it come back? Sure, but it won't be the same. Ever.

She doesn't want a future with me. She has no faith in us. And that's what I can't wrap my head around. And to top it off, how brutally this has been done by her and her family. The scheming, planning, lying - why not just come out and look me in the eye and say 'I don't love you anymore.' It would have been an unbearable pain. But, I would have walked away. Perhaps, we would have parted as amicably. But, this way.

No, she doesn't. Now what are you going to do? You'll find that the scheming, lying, etc., to be a common theme. Mine planned for months - researched shite and everything. MONTHS. And I was not aware of even a problem. Blood is always thicker than water...remember that.

It doesn't matter the hows or whys she did it, SHE DID IT. Nothing else can be said after that. Even if she had done it the way you wanted, you'd still be in the same place you are now - asking why, begging God, etc. It wouldn't have changed the outcome had it been done any differently.

The thing is, you've done all you can to the best of your ability and knowledge. You can't be faulted for that. Sometimes they just want out and don't know how to do it the way we want them to. They do things their own way.