I want to share my story with you all and to see what your opinions are and looking for guidance.
I have been married to my wife for 10 years. We have two children, boy (7) and girl (4). My Wife and kids are my life and mean the world to me.
Over the years, my wife has said I have been neglecting her and our relationship and she is done now. The reason for this neglect on my part was because I was too tied up with Work and wanting to make sure my family had a comfortable life and a roof over their head. During this process, I neglected our relationship .
Over the past summer we met a friend at a wedding. My wife and him started texting alot to each other etc and my wife fell for him...She had an affair with him a few months ago and was continuing until I finally found out about it a couple of weeks ago.
We have been to a marriage counselor but that was counter productive since she was still in her affair at the time which gave her to reason to want to work on us.
I found out that she was lying when she said she ended it and so I finally asked her if she was decent, that she would leave. She asked for 24 hours to reflect on things and to see the pros and cons of staying etc. So I watched her leave at 4 am in teh morning and she went to his place....ya I know, not ideal.
She came back after 24 hours and she was in tears. I asked her if I could hug her and she said yes...She told me she said goodbye to him and has come back.
This was the first true emotion I have seen from her since this all started. Her ended it with him was hard because she was very infatuated with him and felt it was meant to be and they were soul mates.
She said she has had no love/connection with me for the last 2 years.
I can look passed the affair and will not hold it against her. I have hugged her and told her that I love her more than ever and still see her as the angle I married. (yes, I love her that much)
She says she came back for the kids and will take us day by day. Right now we are not holding hands or anything. She does not feel that she wants to do that which I will respect right now. She says that she does not think the love/connection will come back. I on the other hand beg to differ. I truely believe we can get it back but I know it will be alot of work on my part to prove it to her.
We are talking an stuff right now and having some good conversations. I am sitting there and listening intently to how her day was and any stories she has to tell.
when this all started, I was trying to do damage control and pushing her to want to work on things and saying why we should stay together etc but I know now, that was just pushing her further away.
I want to fight for my family, I want my wife back and I want our kids to grow up with both us together.
anyway, that is my story in a nutshell. I am sure I can say alot more but I am sure you are all dreading how long this is already.
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