Wife left two days before our anniversary! Part 2

[jbroken]

Unfortunately, that's how it is. There is no easy way to answer these things. The truth is, well, brutal...but it must be faced.

My marriage made it 10 years. At least we got that far, right? I was in your position, until virtual hammers pounded some sense into my head. When they are determined to leave, they view us as holding them back - and the more we try to do just that, it makes them that much more bitter toward us. It is what it is, my friend.

You've been given the wonderful gift of time to make yourself the best jbroken you can be. And unfortunately, that's all you can do. Nothing else matters now.

I have let her go. But, the silence is deafening and the limbo unbearable. I everyone here says 'time is a gift' but is it really? I'm finding it a bit hard to see it that way.

I wish I could spare you the pain that we've all gone through. You haven't gone into the negative. You are just doing what every single one of us has done before - and some are still doing...and that is trying to hold onto a memory. The butterfly, my friend. Remember the butterfly.

I don't feel like I'm holding on to a memory. I know that IF, and that's a big IF, we were ever to reconcile, our marriage would have to be different. I would have to be different. She would have to be different. We would have to different. Take the good into the future. And leave the bad behind in the past. That's what I have said throughout the separation and continued to say up until the minute she walked out the door. She doesn't want a future with me. She has no faith in us. And that's what I can't wrap my head around. And to top it off, how brutally this has been done by her and her family. The scheming, planning, lying - why not just come out and look me in the eye and say 'I don't love you anymore.' It would have been an unbearable pain. But, I would have walked away. Perhaps, we would have parted as amicably. But, this way.