JBroken - That [censored], and I know the feeling all too well. What I learned was that happiness wasnt going to fall into my lap. If I was sad for a month and moped around and did nothing, I wasnt going to magically be happy after that. It was up to ME to take control of my own life and my own happiness. Nobody else was going to do it for me.
I will promise to you that if you put in the effort to GAL, you can rebuild a life for yourself. The less you focus on your sitch, the better you will be able to maintain your PMA. And the best way to take your focus of off your sitch is to put it into something else....like your GAL.
So, what are your plans?
At the moment, I am just trying to keep my chin-up after the repeated blows. Frankly speaking buddy, I'm just trying to function in my day to day routine.
I don't really know if the GD stratagem is working in my particular sitch. No way to tell either.
Going dark isnt a strategy to get her to come back. In my understanding, it does two main things:
1) It gives you the space you need to be able to grow and change. If youre in constant contact with W, then you will be focused on that. Instead, being dark, lets you have the opportunity to focus on yourself and rebuilding.
2) It forces you to stop pursuing. You cant very well pursue your W while youre dark, now can you?
So, basically, it provides an insulative bubble around you where you can begin to shape your life as you want. If she were to come back right now, you would be the same person and youd have the same relationship - which didnt work! So, now is the time to really focus on your life and what you want to make of it.
So, how about we work to set little goals for you? What would you like to accomplish this weekend?
