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Sandi-

This is amazing, thank you so much. This describes my situation perfectly, and is exactly the advice I needed.

I believe she has quit all contact with OM, and if she is telling the truth, it hit her pretty hard that he was so quick to let her go. She constantly said "I thought he would love me."

I have recognized that we are both fighting our own demons, and I have been struggling with the balancing act of letting her know I am here for her, but also, trying to stave off the devastation and anger that I am feeling as well.

I will be the first to admit I have not been as patient as I know I am supposed to be when it comes to her love and commitment to me. I often forget the unbearable pain and hurt she is feeling on so many levels. However, I made the commitment to be more patient with her last night and to let her work through this at her own pace and how she sees fit. It was well received (I'm not sure she believes it, but I will have to walk it to prove it), and we went to bed (together) peacefully.

Had MC this morning (we are meeting weekly), and we have not gotten to the necessary transparency part of it yet. I asked the counselor while W was not in the room about that, and he thinks W is way too fragile emotionally to hit her with that right this moment. We are currently working through removing some of the toxicity that has built up over the years, and had a positive session. We smiled together and looked back on some good times, which helped us both.

I really appreciate the prayers, and know ultimately God is in control and is walking us through this. She has drifted tremendously so I am praying not only for our marriage but also that she will find her love for God again.

For now, I will focus on what you said, about keeping it light and fun, and trying to become friends again.

Thanks again.