Okay... I've been reading and not posting and maybe I'm just confused.
I don't think ANYONE on here wants an arfer to come to their thread and post... I certainly don't expect/want anyone to cheer me on while I go down ANY cheeseless tunnels. I want/need brutal honesty... NOW. But there was a time when I was in such pain, and needed anyone who remotely understood what I was going through to just be compassionate... not really arfing me along, just welcoming.
And the bb was there.
This sight holds a lot of remarkable people... many who have tromped through this crap and made it through, some with their M, some without. It is a unique place, cause out there in the 'real' world, the advice is move on, honey... your M, your H, they aren't worth it.
Do I see growth in me? Yes. Do I see growth in my sitch... yes and no, and not sure which way it is growing? Do I get afraid and reach out and need a guiding hand? Absolutely...
Are things happening at the speed I would like them too? No, absolutely not... slow as sea corral as someone once said... and I think that is why I don't post much on my own thread... I'm in limbo, I'm waiting, I'm trying very hard to look after me, and there is not much more going on... If anyone thinks there SHOULD be something going on, by all means, let me know, with 2 x 4 or whatever.
Anyway, what I don't want people to be is discouraged from posting, or not posting... there is room on here for everyone, and hopefully, all will be HONEST, but at times, with the velvet 2 x 4, if need be.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.