What if he is happy that I am no longer contacting him; What if he is happy that he doesn't have to do family time again; What if he never contacts me again because he thinks I should be the one to contact him; What if he decides to move away to another city because he doesn't think there is any point in hanging around here (before we got together he was thinking of moving away but he decided to stay because of me); What if he decides to extend the lease on his flat for another year because he enjoys being on his own; What if he decides to start seeing someone else...
Check out what I bolded. It all has to do with him, and not with you.
HE will make his own decisions. You can't live your life an dmake your decision on what HE might do or feel.
Time to focus on what's good for Coly and let fo of some of the codependence.
And just reading along, this family time you speak of, well, it seems to be more about you than your daughter. From what I gather, it is more difficult for her to watch how it affects you. I don't think it's actually doing any good for her. She's 16, she can decide when she wants to spend time with him, and she can do it alone.
Redirect the focus back to you and your D (and I mean truly about what's good for you and your D) and away from him.
