Hey guys, it's me: Phoebe. Is it time for JJ to lock out this thread so we can all make a fresh start for a new season?
I believe that our entertainment portion of the flight has concluded. So please stow your trays back to the locked position, and your seat backs to the full and upright position. Flight attendants: please prepare for landing.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Quote: Meredith will you please post your home phone number, fax, pager and cell phone here so I can call if you ever stop posting again!!! I'm not sure I can handle kewlkitty's, lnl's or UD's posts!! bwahahahah!!!
Dazed, if that is a compliment then I will take it! Please send a fax, because I haven't gotten one of those in quite some time! And if it wasn't a compliment well then F you! I mean, I respect your opinion and honesty. I'm an open minded DBer...so...yes, defintely mean the latter!
On behalf of myself and the rest of us contributing, you're welcome for the bleeping thread, and I also believe it was about bleeping time!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
I haven't even been following this thread much and there was a reference to it on a thread I do read. Came here and started reading and was blown away!
Quote: i have a friend on this board that i am very fond of (she knows who she is) who played every role that there was. the pity parties, the wallowing, the venting, the anger, the wanting to leave, the wanting to not be around, the leaving the bb, and then one day (which was an inspiration to me and continues to be) she GET'S IT - it all clicks
I found nothing in the post from KK offensive in any way!
Here is my 2 cents,LOL, sorry you know I'm going to give it, but with love I hope!
We come here to get support, whether we like it or not. I sure don't expect everyone to post there, and hope everyone doesn't expect me to post on their thread. I read them and if I can't help them or if what they post makes me want to pull my hair out and run: then I don't post. I am here to help to boost PMA's. And when someone is down I want to lead a shoulder, because I know the "pain" and feel it in their posts.
Sure, I've been psyco, depressed, loose it, vent, wallow and have had wonderful baby steps. This is about each of our journeys, even though sometimes we go in different directions.
I do have to agree with KK; things can change in the eleventh hour, and there is proof that even after being D for 3 yrs, couples remarry. "Giving false hope"?, what does that mean? As long as that person sees hope, there is hope, if one of us sees hope, why not tell them? If you don't see any hope say so or say nothing.
There is always hope! Some of us our pessimists! LOL There are a lot of them! Optimists are hard to find and should be embraced! I try to be a optimist, even if I do "crash and burn"! If we were all optimists wouldn't life be great!? I have been an optimist since June. I was told I was an optimist by someone on the BB. But lately I turned into an pessimist; I hate being one.
So I'm working on going back to what I need to be. Maybe some here think I'm nuts, LOL! I have run the whole gamet of pity-parties, venting, wanting to leave, ect. But, I'm still here. I'm here, because I love my friends here, love the support here! And maybe I can help a few here.
Even if things don't look so great for my M right now doesn't mean I've totally given up on my R with my S.
NO, I'm not mad, just worried about some of the posts here on this thread! I just want KK to know, I love her, and she has been a wonderful friend to me! I stand behind her 100%!
No 2 x 4 from me, just loving concern for how people are thinking!
Quote: just loving concern for how people are thinking!
Exactly what we are trying to express as well! Loving concern for traits lately that we thought should be brought to everyone’s attention.
Again, I have to say this very loudly, WE ARE NOT SAYING NEVER, ALWAYS, EVERY TIME, ETC. There are many instances where these things play an important role. Yet, there are also many instances where there is more arfing happening than advice.
I think that in the line of hope, no one will disagree with you that one should always have it. Yet, we should also do our best to prepare some of our DB friends for what is about to happen as well and encourage them to work on the changes in themselves, but to put the marriage to rest for the time being. In doing so, the person takes their focus OFF of the spouse who’s leaving and the divorce and directs their focus back to themselves.
For example, without Pam and Betsey forcing me to do this over this past week, I can’t tell you all the damage I would have done to my own marriage. When things seemed entirely hopeless, they both made me stop, go dark, and focus on my children and myself. Did I have hope? Somewhere back in my mind, yes. But I was also prepared for whatever outcome I was facing. I would not have been had they stood there and arfed at me over whatever I did in effort to save my marriage.
Here nor there, I did sense some anger in Kitti’s post yesterday also. 2x4 me if you will, but I did. I’m not saying that it makes her a bad person or makes her points invalid, far the opposite. Just simply saying what I think. As we should all begin to do more openly on this BB.
That was our point, in a nutshell.
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
Meredith, Thanks! I'm glad you gave it to me in a nutshell. Ok, won't worry, you all have things under control. Just me, being concerned. I guess nothing to be concerned about!
And, I fault no one for what they think. I don't understand how me asking if I took it wrong or if the post was made in anger came off as an attack on Kitti?
I asked, she told. Case closed, as far as I am concerned.
Why the drama? If it hits too close to home, I must say, I never intended to hurt anyone, just to make them think.
I'm not here to try to change anyone other than myself. And, if anyone has ever read my posts, they know that I FULLY understand the concept of making yourself better, with the marriage being just a side benefit to that.
So, please.... look at it for what it is...
I asked a question so as not to assume. Now all I get back are assumptions.
Sounds like there is TONS of anger in your posts! oops, could be wrong, I'm assuming! LOL No need to get defensive! I swear the hairs on you are standing up! LOL.
No one is beating anyone here and i just want you to know you have NO reason to get defensive.
Maybe what you need most is a ciber hug: {{{{}}}}
Sorry, I upset you Gee some people here slam doors!
what does that mean? As long as that person sees hope, there is hope, if one of us sees hope, why not tell them? If you don't see any hope say so or say nothing.
