It makes perfect sense. I have to be honest I never considered that "loving her through this" could mean letting her be. Thank you so much for pointing that out. I guess I always felt like that meant pursuing and "pushing" to love her.
I guess I will work on detaching and GAL, although I struggle with the GAL because that means time away from my son, which I don't know that I am willing to give up. He needs me, especially now.
Yes the advice Sandi gave is invaluable, because she has been there.
So off we go, I am just going to let her be, and work on me and see what happens.
Me-35, W-31 T: 12 M: 11 S5 BD: 11/2016, Wants Divorce Divorce off table 1/17 EA (11/2016)/PA (3/17)confirmed Status Unknown as of 3/29/17
