She says now, she worries that everything will be okay for a few months and then we will end up right back here. I genuinely feel terrible for the emotions my W is wrestling with. I see her pain.
I just have no idea where to go next. Do I detach, do I work on piecing, MC says love her through this, which really makes detaching and acting like I moving on w or w/out her really hard!
Falling back into it again can happen as it did for me and the W and that's why I'm back on this board. I too see my W's pain and I hate it but she's going through it her way and I through mine. We both contributed and we're both dealing in our own ways.
The best way forward is to detach and improve yourself. Your MC says love her through this well one way of doing that is letting her be, letting her hurt, letting her heal. Sandi's given you some incredible insight into the road she went through and your W has to do the same.
This is a marathon and not a sprint and like a marathon you're gonna feel it (not that I've ever come close to running one).
If she sees you at your best (and you can really only be at your best if you've detached, GAL, focus on improving you), you have the best chance to make her rethink everything without asking her to do so.
Does that make sense?
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
