So Confused and Conflicted (6)

[Bdog37]

Hey 25,

Great post and I do agree with much of what you are saying. Sure, there are many unmet needs in a lot of M's, but I think what I was trying to tell Wsh is that he is not all to blame.

Sure there are things he could have done to fulfill his W's needs, but nothing he done/did deserved to be cheated on. It was a conscience decision his W made so for her to place the blame on him is hurtful and irresponsible.

To betray a spouse by having an A is the most selfish and inconsiderate act someone can do to the person they chose to love. It is all about them at that point. The resentment they have towards their spouse is still no reason to cheat. They should leave before taking such actions.

I know you are just trying to shed some light on why an A can occur and not actually condoning a spouse having one. I will also read Sandi's post in regards to the mindset of a woman and what brought her to the decision of having an A.

With that being said I still will not allow my W to tell me her A is all my fault. Period. It is her fault and I don't think Wsh should believe it is all his fault as well. They can say what they want to justify their actions, but at the end of the day...no one can make you do anything.