Friends: Anchor, Bruce and Chum's BB Version

[Lyrael]

Okay -
I am going to say "Yeah, what SHE said" to Bets' post, mostly because I am realizing that (according to one of my new life rules) I need to take care of myself first.

Then I am going to add another one to Sage - my M doesn't fit anybody's idea of the "typical" M. I have an appt, and will be staynig with my H only part time. We don't really know at this point what will happen to our M.

But I don't care anymore what people think of how unusual my situation is. It is working for us, and allowing two people who love each other very much to remain ineach other's lives in a way that doesn't hurt, but enhances both of those lives.

My H couldn't have gotten through to me in any other way than by leaving either. And I slid back into destructive patterns, and he left again. I needed that, honestly. I needed a MASSIVE whack to the head so that I understood that I could either be "right" and hold on to my vison of a "real marriage" and a "normal family," or I could be with the man that I loved, and grow into a person who was tolerant and accepting rather than critical and angry all the time.

I am learning, and this BB has facilitated that. Almost everyone who has posted on this thread has affected that journey. You guys have helped me change my life, and not by arfing at me all the time, either.
I think this post made no sense, but oh, well.
Myrrh