Friends: Anchor, Bruce and Chum's BB Version

[sage]

KK -- You didn't seem angry to me...but that could have been because I read your post and thought "yah, what SHE said" A perfect example of "reading but not posting and the reasons why!".

I guess I'd add one thing...I spent most of my marriage pretty sure that I had the "right" way to "process" stuff and that if only I could somehow convince h to do it "my way" then everything would be cool. I had lots of "backup" for that from my friends and even counselors.

Well, that belief system nearly cost me my m. and it's been a painful lesson to learn that we process stuff differently and that's ok. Extending that to the BB I'd say that I don't agree that we're all here for the same reasons nor do I think that we all need to process this stuff in the same way. Michele was the first "person" to let me know that it was AOK if my m. and what was "working" to fix it didn't fit the "mold" of what the experts thought should be happening. it's trial and error and applying the DB principles to your own sitch that matters most, IMHO. I appreciate that sometimes I've been coddled on my thread, that I've received well aimed 2x4s, and that I've received praise. I seem to get a lot more views than posts but I hope that's because people find my thread interesting. At the end of the day, though, I'm here because I need and want to be.

Sage