WAW and the Big D

[Bdog37]

As horrible & absent as the WAS can be as a parent, detaching is so crucial, so there's a lot to be said for seeing this as a "parade" of fools.

Sit down out of the way, eat your popcorn & watch the parade go by...But do your best to protect your kids.

Hey 25yearsmic,

I agree, but sometimes its difficult to just sit by and watch what she is doing to our children. She desires a free life full of partying, staying out late, and no responsibilities. This is a life that I gave up when we had our first born and a life that I look back at and don't miss anymore. She does.

How do you tell your kids that their mother/father don't want to spend time with them? I chose not to bring up any questions in regards to the bday situation. Just asked my oldest if she had fun. As much as it hurts, I know my oldest is smart enough to realize who is present in her life right now. She doesn't speak about the situation, but does complain that she wants to stay with me and not her mom. As good as this feels I am still sadden by her loss more than mine. I can deal with loosing my wife, but I don't know how to comfort a child that "lost" their parent. The ex is going out of town this week and will only see her kids twice and only for a few hours. As a father I could never do this. The days I do not have my children are the hardest days for me. Sitting in a quiet house that used to be filled with laughter and joy... How can any parent value their time alone more than their time with their kids? This is just a concept to me that I don't understand.

How did you deal with your WAS in regards to the children?