I have another reason for reading posts and not responding:
I would like for ppl to put a summary in their first post I know I haven't always done it either) that describes the sitch, where it has gone, and where it is now. If I go into someone's thread and see that there is 10 previous threads to read to get the sitch, I get discouraged. That takes a LOT of time.

In the beginning of my bb days, I would print out ppls' threads and read them when I got a chance. That was also when H wanted a lot less to do with me...so, now, I don't have the time.

I also look for similarities in our sitch's. I feel like I don't have much to add when your h's have a PA, b/c I do not know what I would do in that sitch. It's easy for ppl to say, "oh, yeah, I'd leave him in a heart beat if he ever cheated on me," only to find themselves in the sitch and staying and wanting to work it out.

There have been a few instances where some people arfed me, & I was thinking, "what are you thinking? I am NOT doing great! I'm stuck in the same ole same ole!!! Don't BS me." Yes, it's nice to hear how wonderful I am and that helps, but not hearing that I am doing a good job when I am not. (Not that I never do a good job).

karen812