Friends: Anchor, Bruce and Chum's BB Version

[TripleJ]

i do believe in this statement. altho, michelle tends to remind us that things CAN CHANGE in the 11th hour. but you see pam - the way i see this whole db process FINALLY is that this isn't about our mate, this is about US individually - so there can be success if we apply these principles to ourselves

KK, this is EXACTLY what people need to realize here IMHO.

The only way we can save our M's and R's is if we save ourselves. I, for one, remember a time when I was contributing to the demise of my M. I did alot of things wrong and I wasn't a very good person, to me, to my W or my kids.

But I sought help, through C, through books and through this BB. And my life as a man has changed for the better.

But lets get back to the point at hand here. I too fell into the thought that many hits and not enough replies means something bad. I learned that it doesn't mean too much. I think it means that there are a number of people out there that follow my thread and my sitch because they see SOME similarity with it and may pick up something that can help them.

I have to be honest and say that at one time, I was very pissed at the BB for not replying on my thread. I would try to seek help but no one would have an answer for me. I wondered why that was.

I still don't have a concrete answer, but I think that I have so many hits is because people like what I have to say. And when they don't reply, they are either agreeing with me or have nothing to add.

The praise is awesome, don't get me wrong. In a way, we all need WoA from one another, cause where else we going to get it right now? But I also need the kick in the patootie once in a while when someone thinks I am messing up.

Isn't what this board should be used for?

I remember a while back, and forgive me for getting specific, the post cycler made to betsey. Alot of people jumped on cycler for posting in such a way that it hurt her. But ya know what? That might have been the BEST thing for her at the time. Actually the best for both of them. I am willing to bet the mortgage that that those two people are better people today because of it.

So you see, throwing 2x4s CAN be a good thing. Praise CAN be a good thing. Its WHERE and WHEN we use them is the key.

And Pam, I need to thank you for starting the topic, I just threw the gasoline on it!!!!!!

Triple J

p.s. I ASK THE MODERATORS TO PLEASE NOT LOCK THIS THREAD UNTIL THIS TOPIC HAS BEEN EXHAUSTED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!