I do know people that have done nesting and its challenging. I think it works better when the separation is mutually agreed on and there is even friendship. That's not the case in most sitches. Also if there is an A, it can be stressful to the LBS to wonder if the OP is sleeping in the same bed. The family I knew had a house with the kids and a small apartment, and then they switched off. I admire them for doing it, but I would never be able to handle that. I think it only lasted a year or so and then they found their own places.

I was wondering if you have read the No More Mr Nice Guy material? My H is also a wimpy/pushover kinda guy, and it's been a real struggle for him. The book was like holding up a mirror and forced him to look at himself in a deeper way. It was profound. His Nice Guy issues had a lot to do with why our M fell apart, not having deeper communication, and ultimately what made him vulnerable to the A. He has learned a lot from the book and how to have stronger boundaries.

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela