I hate doing this, but I can't help myself. All of your views and feelings have merit (good DBing? ). Actually, I mean that sincerely.
Each of us is ultimately responsible for how we handle our own lives and each of is different. Even if we disagree with another poster--it does not mean that poster is not making a sincere effort to help. And while I, too, can see no help in arfers--at times it's just nice to know someone is out there thinking about you in a positive way.
The bottom line is that we give and take out of this BB what we give and take. We are in control of that much, if not our spouses. Just as we may decide what writers/opinion makers we like and dislike, the same holds true for the BB. But if we follow anyone blindly (except perhaps for G-d, and even this religious reference will offend at least one reader out there), we set ourselves up for trouble.
All of us are here because life DID NOT go according to plan. And you know something, IMHO that's what life is and what DBing is all about--making the most of things are not perfect or easily scripted--life.
So long as no one is co-opting or intentionally undermining someone's thread, let's keep all views coming and do it in a peaceful, respectful manner (as this discussion has been). We can agree to disagree--even in a pointed manner!
). Actually, I mean that sincerely. 
