lots to consider here. i am not going to go into why "i" read and not post, or why sometimes "i" offer praise instead of a 2x4, each of us have our own way of dealing with what we read on this board
i will say that there is a lot to be said about focusing on the positive, especially when that positive concentrates on yourself.
all of our sitches suck big time. all of us have had our period of mourning, wallowing and pity parties. who are WE to say when enough is enough? each one of us have to go thru this process on our own, and like our mates, on our own time line
i have a friend on this board that i am very fond of (she knows who she is) who played every role that there was. the pity parties, the wallowing, the venting, the anger, the wanting to leave, the wanting to not be around, the leaving the bb, and then one day (which was an inspiration to me and continues to be) she GET'S IT - it all clicks
i have mentioned this more than a few times in my own thread and on others. there is a point that MOST OF US WILL GET IT - for some it takes a short while, for others, maybe longer. for those that it's taking a while, well, who are we to dictate our time line on them? you can either read/comment, read/not comment, there is no forcing either way.
just cause there are more views than comments mean absolutely NOTHING - i may comment ONCE in a thread and come back to it MANY times during the next few days cause i wanna see how my comment was taken by others. does that mean each and every time i go to a thread i have to comment?
if just 10 people did that three times a day to one thread, none of us would have any lives - we would just be sitting here reading and commenting
some of us have EPIPHANY's for OTHER people while reading their thread, and decide to offer suggestion, some of us are BLANK when we read it, but by the end of the day after we have thought about things come back and can finally comment
i have been on bulletin boards for close to 10 years. that is the life of a bb - always MORE views than replies. nothing should be thought negative of that - there are THOUSANDS of people every day that glance thru these boards, most of them none registered users - so do not base your opinion of people on the amount of views versus your replies on your thread
that being said
honesty IS important here. that is the ONLY way you will get help - i have been PAINFULLY HONEST ON THIS BOARD - so much so that if these things came out in my "offline" life would hurt many many people, but by being honest here, i have gotten help, processed and am doing better because of it
there is a lesson to be said about honesty, and i appreciate the candor of some here - you can only heal when first you realize you have a problem
