I had many years of actions and red flags I ignored. One of the hardest things for me, and I suspect it will be for you, is forgiving yourself for not seeing it. For not wanting to believe. I am telling you this now and I hope you remember it. It does not meant that you are a sap or stupid. It meanst that you have a kind heart and a good soul and you projected onto your wife your own goodness and that caused you to silence that voice inside of you that said that things were not right.
Very well said. I, too, had so many red flags that I couldn't see the forest for the trees. Honestly, I wish I hadn't silenced that voice inside of me. However, it wasn't until after BD that I learned of all the abuse and how it is so woven into the very fabric of her being. Sigh. Oh well, it is what it is.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
