I am very glad that Pam’s post has started this topic of conversation. It is giving me a chance to see other POVs.
I understand your dream of becoming a therapist, probably because I share it! But you do realize that there is a time and a place for positives and a time and a place for silence…and that neither will fill the need for the honest call-outs.
If you see someone doing positively, of course it makes sense to tell them so! Absolutely! We all need to hear that we’re doing okay in this fight. BUT, like you pointed out in your last post here, we also all need to know what is going wrong and be called on the carpet about it. The silence you would offer in lieu of the well-directed criticism may not send the right message.
As a therapist, you are going to be doing a lot of carpet calling. You’re going to have to identify the negative behaviors and point them out. That is why we’re here. We know that we aren’t doing something right, but if no one is willing to tell us what those things are…how are we going to have that light bulb moment that will change our behaviors?
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
