Thanks Jeep74. every day that goes by it's becoming easier for me to accept a possible split. Not saying it doesn't still scare me, but looking at it from a spiritual sense, for me at least, I know there is a reason behind everything, and we grow from the darkest of nights. there is a line in a song I like from Disturbed, it says "sometimes darkness can show you the light". I can take this two different ways- either this whole blowup was supposed to happen to expose our faults, and help up to become stronger in our marriage- or it's meant to catapult us into something much greater for each of us, individually, as we go our separate ways. I'm becoming closer to accepting the latter, but, It still hurts, tremendously.
I like your line of thinking, and quite honestly wish I was like that back then. It will always hurt, in some form. Always. Just as they will always be a part of us...there just is no getting around that fact. And there will always be something that will jog a memory or something and everything will come flooding back. So far, that hasn't happened. But, I'm also at a place where I'd be OK never seeing or talking to her again. I don't know what got me to that point, and at times that bothers me a little.
You just have to learn how to compartmentalize things in that regard. It will always be there. And in time, you'll come to find that memories will be happy. Weird, I know.
You got this. You are in a far better place than I was at your point!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
