Jeep74, you are wise, sir. I can only hope that I have the courage you have to get through this possible impending doom. I am sorry that your marriage didn't work out. I am preparing myself for the break...I've reached out to family, finally, after not wanting to tell them for fear of judgement or taking sides. I even told his parents, as they did not know. My sisters live within 5 minutes of my house and both have opened their doors to me if I had to leave. So, I'm feeling a bit more secure in a sense that I won't be alone in this if something happens. It gives me a little assurance, although I hope it doesn't come down to that.
Thank you, Sunmoon, for the kind words.
I'm going to be honest - it was hard, as hard as hell. I fought for much longer than I should have, but then again, I also was fighting to keep us intact for the kids. Had we not had kids, things would have been done a long time ago. Not many will want to hear this, but preparing yourself for the impending break is a wise decision...just another way of saying that you are working on yourself.
Reaching out was a wise, wise decision. They can - and will - be there. Blood is always thicker than water...and don't ever forget that. I also was the one to break the news to her mom and stepdad. I got called all kinds of names for that. Oh well, chalk another one up to experience. Just be VERY careful as to what you say to his family...honestly, I would refrain from talking any about the situation. Been there, done that.
You are doing well! Keep it up!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
