If people are here only for the praise, then in my humble opinion, they are in the WRONG place. If they were doing only praiseworthy things in their lives, well, they wouldn't need to be HERE, would they?
Well, I know for me that's certainly true. I love getting praised. But the reason I stay on the BB is because I'm not quite ready to take the training wheels off.
I enjoy helping people. I enjoy being a part of a 'worthy cause', that's what this BB is to me.
But I also want to hear and understand what I've done wrong so that I can fix it in the future.
My husband doesn't always make sense to me.
Very often in the past, we would have a conversation that would degenerate into a fight. I did not understand how it got that way. What I did wrong. What I could do better.
I don't feel like I have an innate ability to strategize. To look at a situation, break it up into smaller pieces and examine each one. To me it's all a huge train wreck and I'm left there on the tracks saying, "What the heck just happened?"
So, I keep coming to the BB.
I'm not quite ready to venture out beyond piecing. I still am struggling with detaching.
My ultimate goal is to be able to help people in the Newbie section.
My dream is to become a marriage and family therapist.
I know that to do so, I will need to learn the skill of the velvet 2 x 4.
I believe that by continuing to participate on the BB, I will continue to improve my skills of breaking down the situation. And I will continue to improve my skill of detachment.
But, I have a ways to go yet.
Thank you again for this thought provoking thread.
