Hello Roist, that sounds like a good plan to me. I must say I really do notice the difference when I practice the self-care. I just seem to be able to take things more in my stride. And yes there are ups and downs, but they are less affecting.
Your idea of goals is great too. I have found a little notebook helpful for this and I start a new page for any new goal I think of. Then I revisit it from time to time, adding steps on or ticking things off. It's rather organic and iterative, but seems to work for me! Whatever works for you I would say.
What I think is important for anyone is to remember - I am (first and foremost) an individual and I am also within a marriage. Looking after ourselves as individuals within the marital setting is a priority (and we don't always make it so...)
I like that your changed approach is you-centric but supports the preservation of the marriage too....best of luck with everything my friend.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
