PIB,
Thanks for that. I appreciate your method, I really do. It shows that you have a kind heart.

I just want to say this:
If a 2 X 4 results in having someone threatening to leave the board, then they are blindly on their own anyway. You can't just decide to go with the praise, and ignore the other. I mean really! This is like thinking that the same person who is correct, in your mind, with the praise is now suddenly crazy because they don't agree with you?
Follow me?

If people are here only for the praise, then in my humble opinion, they are in the WRONG place. If they were doing only praiseworthy things in their lives, well, they wouldn't need to be HERE, would they?

Thank you, for taking the time to post your thoughts. I needed to hear that to understand.