Hello there! Thank you OwnIt, Skyhigh, Job, and Roist for your help with this.
I sat on it over the weekend and gave it a lot of thought. I am going to ignore what I know.
Ownit - the time to respond to his petition doesn't start clicking until I get served. At this point, I am not concerned about having enough time to respond, etc. I have a lawyer lined up and a tentative plan in place. It's tentative only because with most things MLC, it seems we can never be 100% certain where things will go. He wants this, then he'll have to do the work.
I am going to learn to live with the discomfort and do my best to detach from it.
So I thought the passive aggressive nonsense was drawing to a close, but alas, he waited until Saturday morning to drop wheelbarrow full loads on me. The remarks kept coming. It has gotten so much easier for me to ignore it. My therapists have told me that people who do this don't even realize they are doing it. Knowing that does make me feel better about not responding. What good would it do? None. He would just get defensive and that would fuel his justifications. So for the time being, I'll put on my armor.
In the meantime, I am keeping up with the EMDR sessions and doing my best to move forward.
I had a very strange dream last night about my brother-in-law. We were having an affair!?! I remember feeling so alive and happy that someone was so excited to be with me. In the dream, my H found out about it and lost his mind. It all seemed so real. I was very discombobulated when I woke up.
