After talking with my counselor today it's clear to them that she still has feelings for me from her actions, but that she isn't capable of anything more than friends right now. I have to play the game and keep working on GAL to stay interesting enough that she will want to be with me when she gets through her stuff (and obviously to be a better person for myself). She's holding a lot of resentment right now and doing revisionist history. Getting to counseling together will really be the only time I can be sure the history gets worked out and until then I'll work under the Dr. Gottman idea of it takes 5 good things to fix a bad one. I can't change the past but learn from it moving forward. If she mentions friends I have to find a way to remind her that this is a step for me not the end goal, without placing pressure on her. How I do that? I dunno.
Short term goal is to have a date (even if we don't call it that) by my birthday on the 18th. 3 weeks from now. She will have been alone at the work apartment for ~2.5 weeks at that point.
Together 7 years Married 3 Said she was taking long way home late January Left to get some space 2/19/17 BD 3/1/17 ILYB
