She doesn't bring up issues and problems for years and then it's I want out.
Yep. In her mind, she's checked out long before mentioning it. Maybe she held out hoping things would change. Maybe she mentioned, however casually, things that bothered her. Maybe she didn't. That's all irrelevant now, though. No use in trying to figure it out because you won't get the answer you want.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
