So its been a few days and wanted to provide an update and get some opinions. As a reminder, I hired my attorney for the divorce last week. To my knowledge, she has yet to hire an attorney. We are both still living in the family home and she is walking across the street to spend the night with the OM. She waits until our son goes to sleep and then comes back in before he wakes. We have said very few words to each other over the last 5 days and even fewer texts. I have since started staying away from the home more and becoming a little more "unpredictable". I am still being a good father as that comes first. During this time I have dropped about 20 lbs, and have become more attractive. As we all know the divorce will most likely take at least 6 months to finalize. Any recommendations during this time? She has obviously fallen head over heels for this man but do we all think she is truly happy or is this her way of coping and getting away from the situation? Will her relationship with him last? As much as it embarrasses me to say, TODAY...if she were to come to me and say she broke it off with OM and wants to work on our marriage, I would say yes. But in the meantime, I have to act and get it into my head that day will NEVER come and I am moving on to the next chapter. I really want to see other women to get a jump start on this process and honestly to show wife that I am capable of getting another woman with no problem. Is this a bad idea? Should I hold off on dating until divorce is final or start now. Would't wife see me as more attractive if she found out I found a new little hottie? Thoughts???


Me: 38
Her: 33
Bomb: 1/6/2017
Separated: 1/10/17
Together: 16 Years
Son 12 Years Old
She and Son still at the house
Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times
Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17