Round 2

[Tryin2figuritout]

Venting today as I'm mixed up emotionally. No change on the path and that's all good. Just irritated.

The W gave the "been alone forever" speech today and I kindly validated the statements and her feelings. I called her on her contributions to this in a firm, gentle way not trying to create a real R or M discussion and this was fine.

She said in the end of this that "this is not the type of marriage I want" and I said "well we can both agree on that" and walked off to head to the gym. For us, it's about the intimacy or lack there of and we're in 100% agreement.

Please know that I understand my faults in this and am not dismissing them (depression, expressing myself). The emotional part for me is just plain anger. She doesn't bring up issues and problems for years and then it's I want out.

We've both ignored and both have equal contributions into this mess. I get that we might not be able to unwind it and so be it. I find it to be a weak excuse for things and it's the classic WAS. I get it, but sometimes I just don't get it!!!!!

She's wanting to move up the apartment because she's got control issues. Right now, it's really the only thing she has control over in her life. At the house, me and the kids got it under wraps. She's been running over to her female co-worker for support because her family is not 100% supportive on this. They know she's going to do what she wants.

Ugh... starting to feel like a rant, so I'll run at this point. I know many of y'all here feel both sides of this whether you are the WAS or the LBS. I'm just really thankful to have found this site and everyone here to bend an ear and support.