You can do this!!! Prepare for the worst, and do not let that (or him) change your course. If you can do this, you will feel so much better about yourself. He doesn't determine how you respond, got it??? Even if he shows up with D papers and says/does the most unimaginable things--I'm never coming back, I want D, and I never loved you, spew, spew, etc--you are going to do the same exact thing. Got it?

Here it is: Poker face. Listen, listen, and listen. Say nothing! Read up on the validation cheat sheets and use them all. Those are your best friends right now. Let him do all the talking. Got it??? Even if he lies, spews, attcks, and makes things up. Just listen. Offer nothing as to where you stand, feel, and what you want--he already knows anyway. It's ok if he thinks you are losing interest--that's ok right now. He needs to see you are not angry and that you are safe to approach.

If he tries to ask you questions, or engage you, just listen and tell him you have a lot to think about. Or thank you for asking. I have a lot on my mind right now. Or turn that chit right around on him---can you elaborate on that? I'm thinking and wondering why you're asking. Can I get back to you on that? I need some time to think. Got it???

Look, people and their feelings are always changing. Always. He is scared of you, your emotions, and what to do also. Show him with your actions that you are a woman that is strong, confident, and caring. Even if he is there to do/say the worst possible, he can still change his mind one day---show him a woman that only a fool would leave. 180 TIME is now!

Put your anger on the back burner. Show him that soft, caring, listening side of you. Just listen and validate. Your only goals. And that you are going to need to think more about whatever he says/asks. Especially financial stuff--- that you may need in email form.

As soon as you drive away you can cry, yell, or beat the steering wheel.

We want him to see you're okay moving on without him and you are not sitting there waiting. You can do this!!!!!!

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela