The way I think of it is we have behavioural habits that become entrenched. Some of these are unattractive and counter productive. Some of them come from childhood (FOO) and others just from automatic responses.
There are many different ways of patterning, often we behave without thinking or our thinking is skewed. Sometimes it's a test for the other, or for finalising the sitch, getting it over with.
They say there are four emergency responses, fight (anger) flight (going silent and escaping) freeze (fear, rabbit in the headlights) or faun (placate, beg etc). And it's obvious which one this is I think.
Which of these we do is in our comfort zone.
And usually none of these responses work. Only working on us to become assists us. Remember, much of our response is automatic, so to change an automatic response we dig deep and shift.
So likely losing your temper or going silent, sulking or falling to pieces wouldn't work either. In essence a healthy strong detached response is best.
Those are my thoughts
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
