Maybe the vets would like to know if you plan to post regularly, or just show up a few times and leave again. IDK, it's just a thought.
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I stopped working on saving my marriage to focusing on me i did date another woman for 6 months and that was different and I take away great memories of it
IMHO, when a desperate LBS stops what they see as "working on saving the M", they actually let go and drop the emotional rope they have tied around their H/W. They stop the pursuit and focus on themselves.......and GAL seriously. And, lo & behold, they stumble into what works in getting the attention and desire from the one who was ready to call it quits. If your W had any feelings whatsoever, I'm sure seeing you date the same woman for six months had some influence in her believing she was losing you.
Two things: First, make sure she is not tempt checking to see if she can still pull you away from the new lady you are dating. If that's her game, she will lose interest as soon as she feels confident you are emotionally connected to her again. If she is sincere, then she will cooperate.......and to be willing to do the necessary work. Her attitude will tell you the truth.
Second, You need to go very, very slowly. Do not jump into bed with her. If you choose to piece the M back together, you will need professional guidance to help you both learn how to deal successfully with whatever past, current, and future issues you may face.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
