How many times have you guys fought the urge to talk to your WAS and whine, complain, reason, and so forth? It's so hard when there are things you want to say to them so badly but DB says you shouldn't. It's that whole trust the head over the heart thing. Why is it our instinct to do what we shouldn't to get our spouses back?
Because doing something new and different is by definition Uncomfortable for us. So we go back to what we know.
Cheeseless tunnels. Do you remember that phrase? What once worked OR seemed to work gets repeated even in the face of evidence it no longer works
or even makes things worse.
Whining and complaining are never effective at getting authentic change in them.
Why would it? I think you know this.
Someone might do something to silence us to save themselves the hassle of hearing it
but they won't want to STAY and hear that.
DBing seems counter intuitive to many people and they resist it.
Guess it's about you deciding whether you are more uncomfortable with your life as it is -
or changing.
Once you are here, zero of your options are comfortable or painless.
THAT^^^ is hard to accept. But when you think about it, it's actually self evident.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
