So Friday, March 3, I filed for divorce. I did not realize that my state has a 2 month cooling off period, so this Friday will be the end of the first month. (I know im an attorney, but I dont do family law).
The first week after filing, I took her calls, and really hoped for reconciliation. However, her calls have become fewer and far between. Funny how she says its all my fault for ruining everything by filing. She hasn't once turned back towards the marriage. She talks about trying to get back together, but her actions say otherwise.
When she tries to contact me it is during the week, so I assume she must still be having her fun with om2 (of course she denies).
One of the times I talked with her, I told her that I heard her talk to om2, and she said to him that she talked to her friend about if she could see a ltr with him, and "the sex". To me that implies they are having sex (I cant remember if I posted this before sorry if I have). She then asked if she hadn't scared him off yet.
She said to me she doesnt remember calling him and saying the first two things. I pointed out that he called her. She said the scaring off part was about his "friendship". Another thing I cant remember if i shared was I found a card he wrote to her. When I brought that up, she said it wasnt a valentines day card, I said I didnt say anything about valentines day. She said she received on VD. I asked her if she did not think that was inappropriate. She said she did and she had a talk with him. I said it is funny that she has to keep having talks with these new "friends" about crossing inappropriate lines with her. She was like, it is weird. As a last little jab, I through out maybe they aren't the problem, maybe it is the things you do an say to them. She didnt pick up on what i was throwing.
I am pretty content, ready to start a new life. I probably have 2-4 months until it is final. I feel that it is the correct decision. When I told her she barely cried, which is the opposite of what she has told me. I have some friends (they use to be mutual, but she hasnt talked to them in a while) and when she called to tell the wife I filed, she didnt cry at all which the wife thought was really weird.
We had one reconciliation talk, that first week, I told her I needed the following:
no contact with either om; full disclosure and transparency; talk about it as much as I want to; change of phone numbers; no going out with female friend also having an affair; must find new job.
She of course will not comply with the last two, and would have no way to confirm full disclosure or no contact 100%. So I keep moving forward with divorce. The friends wife mentioned above, her mom goes to the salon, and when she went in said stbx only talked about how they were trying to make sure i didnt get 50% equity from house. Her stylist then told her how stbx was having full blown affair, and had shunned her when she had an ea. So again, think I am making correct choice.
I will try to keep you all updated.
Me:33, WW:30 BD:12/14/16, EA no children Still together
