Same Sitch. New Approach... Feeling Good (part 2)

[Chris73]

Hi Gordie. It's definitely a temporary situation. The mediator is also a psychologist with a specialty in family therapy. She is trying to approach the change in our family dynamic in very small steps so as to have as little impact on the kids as possible. She is also trying to impress upon my W that she should not be in any rush to dissolve the marriage when there is still an open path to reconciliation on the table.

So basically, the in-home separation hasn't changed my W's attitude and she wants more space between us. I have been unwavering in my stance of not leaving my home. So initially she posed the ultimatum of all three of them moving out. Which (obviously) had me in panic mode. When we sat down with the mediator today she said that she thinks uprooting the kids is a bad idea (...despite her fog, she's still thinking like a responsible parent most of the time), which of course put us back into a stalemate again. This is when the mediator suggested the "nesting" idea. I think the idea has some benefits but it also feels like I'm conceding...