Update: things have been going "okay" for the most part up until yesterday. Saturday night, he went out after work with some co-workers for a couple drinks. i did not text him, ask when he was going to be home, I completely let him be and let him come home when he wanted. sunday morning rolls around and he asks if we were going to go to my grandmas for lunch (we dot this every sunday, with the whole family) I said that I hadnt planned on it because i was feeling slightly under the weather but he hinted that he wanted to go, so I agreed and we went. the entire time we were there, he stayed away from me completely. had very little conversation with anyone- played with the kids for a bit and talked a bit to my uncles but stayed completely away from me. after eating I finally got sick of the behavior and I got up to get my purse and said my goodbyes to everyone- he acted shocked that I was leaving sooner than i usually leave. He then got up and said he would leave too because he had to get around and get to work (we drove separate so he could go to work from there) as we were walking out to my car, I walked to my door and reached for the handle and he said "okay, so I guess bye?" he stood there like he was waiting for a hug - I turned to him and kindly said "well I really feel like you were needing your space today, youve acted like you didnt really want me around.." he said, "no I havent" and gave me a hug and kiss goodbye. later in the day on his lunch break he texted me "I'm having more confusion again, i feel detached today".
last night when he got home, same treatment- cold, went down into the basement and didn't come up until he came to bed. this morning was even more odd, he got up to go the the gym and never even said bye...this is very unusual for him.
So, I need advice- I havent gotten my hand on the DR book yet but am getting it...I need to know if its time for me to detach and leave for a while. I have shown in the last two weeks significant improvement. I have not done any of the things that he first complained about- I let him go out for the first time without a single text or worry of where he was at or when he was going to be home. he didn't even acknowledge what a huge stride that was for me. I want to save this marriage and feel like staying somewhere else and asking for no contact will help him S**t or get off the pot on his feelings for our marriage.
