Oh man.. I'm so sorry SBJ. Like you I've been assuming A but have yet to have it actually confirmed. I can only imagine how visceral that confirmation must have been for you. Our minds can conjure up quite a picture and really cut us to the bone, can't they?

I wish I could offer something that would make this less painful. Everything you are saying is what I've been thinking too. We know the A is a symptom and we know that they are the ones who are broken, so it doesn't make any sense why we are the ones how are brought such pain by the crisis.

I think you can let go and let God, and at the same time I think it's ok with Him him if you also need to bawl your eyes out from the pain. Maybe that's how we get it all out so that we can give it to Him.

Hang in there tonight. I'll be saying a prayer for you.


Me : 42
Him : 43
M : 18, T : 19
D13, D11
4/16 1st BD (ILYB)
11/16 H wants s, moves out of br
1/17 H rents house & moves out
2/17 OW (he denies PA but EA last winter)
5/17 I filed for D 7/17 D Final