You are absolutely one hundred percent correct Sunmoon. You never give up on the people you love. Never. You stick through the rough patch. That is what I believe at my very core. The way my W has gone about doing this has really made me feel like our vows meant nothing to her. That she never really truly loved me. Painting me out to be the worst husband on the planet. So much so that my own mother-in-law goes to me 'this is a bad marriage' and 'why has my daughter lost her confidence then?'. Not one of our common 'friends' even now could say ever put her down. I always built her up. Picked her up. I supported her in every possible way. I took on a personal loan on myself of $50000 to invest in her starting up her own business. Only because I wanted her to live out her dream rather than be a corporate slave. I went without things, sacrificed myself so I could give her best I could afford. I single handedly supported the entire marriage financially - that too in London! And now I'm a 'bad husband'! Does that sound like one to you. I'm not saying I wasn't without faults. And I admitted them. I worked on them. I'm still working on them. But, to blame me for everything wrong in the entire M. I mean how can you even justify that your head?
And the worst part is that I have hardly spoken of her faults to anyone really. Even now, I still can't bring myself to do it. A part of me, wishes to yell from the roof tops - at how I've been wronged here, how I've been treated, at her part to play in our current sitch. But, based on the good advice given here, I'm fighting this temptation. Really hard. And yes, a part of me screams out 'screw you, you don't deserve me' and then it's a spiral to 'forgive, win her back with love, with compassion'.
Me:35 W:35 M:5 T:7 NO KIDS S: 3rd Nov 2016 to 4th Feb 2017 BD: 7th Mar 2017 GD: 6 weeks