Wife left two days before our wedding anniversary!

[jbroken]

25yearsmlc,

I wasn't looking for any shortcuts. I just wanted to know if there is a more immediate part I should read first due to the pressing nature of my sitch e.g. LRT.

Also, our separation was three months - 3rd November 2016 to 4th February 2017. During the separation, I must have broken practically all the DB rules - I did not have the benefit of this forum then. Whilst I did do that, what I also did was work on the issues my W had with me - short temper, lack of appreciation, etc. When she came back, I put forward my best self - showed appreciation, never lost my temper, left love quotes all over the house, etc. All this while she was trying to bait me into arguments, pushing me to lose my temper, disrespecting me, abusing me, throwing the past in my face. I put all my issues with her to one side and focused only on what mine were. And things would be up one minute and down the next. I still kept going. And I was cracking her. I was working through the bitterness. I saw glimpses of her love return. But, came home one day from work and boom that's it. It is as if she had made-up her mind come what may, regardless of what she saw, she was going to pack up her life and leave. She did not want to give us time. That's all I believed we needed. I still believe. No doubt she was egged on my bad advice from close mutual 'friends' and my own mother-in-law! Taking advantage of bad situation to make her see the grass is greener on the other side. Talk about people with unclean hearts.