One week to be divorced... and counting

[25yearsmlc]

I'm a little confused.

You and your stbx have a child custody schedule that you approved and agreed to.

Now and then, your stbxw wants to trade a day and so far, she has had reasons you deemed worthy. And IF you want a compensation day, she's more than willing to give you one. In fact, from where I sit, she's probably making an extra effort to compensate you to avoid looking unfair.

So, what's the specific problem? The kids changing a day now and then? Is your schedule disrupted too much?

I don't know the ages of the kids. But I'm not clear on what you fear and yes, I think there is fear in your post.

As for the Div being finalized, it'll cement the agreement you signed (and wanted??)

it is not the reality of what is occasionally happening.

IF the D is finalized and becomes the legally enforceable agreement, and IF you think she violates it, the D only protects you.

It's a costly thing to try and enforce (and maybe most judges won't think it's worth it,) but they will enforce the letter of the agreement.

I don't understand the fears you have and the relevance of the Div papers being signed. It isn't relevant to the swaps if it's not part of the D agreement.

I think what I'm trying to say is,

choose your battles wisely.

And dig deep to find your real motivation. Just so I know,

What exactly are you fighting for or against, btw? Any swapping??

To me you sounded as if flexibility was a good thing in your mind.


What bothers you when you see her these days? What's it triggering?