I will look into it for me at least, H has stated he only wants to work through our counselor for now. I'm hanging on. by a thread it seems, but I am strong.
We went to counseling yesterday and he had said some things I thought were very interesting- hurtful but interesting....
He basically models a marriage after his parents. He mentioned how his parents' marriage was, -basically they live pretty independent of each other- his dad has worked 7 days a week for the last 36 years and his mom is a social butterfly. I've never seen them hug, kiss, be affectionate in any way, their conversations with each other are often very sarcastic, and they don't do a whole lot together. then he proceeded to tell me I was too needy and that I was smothering him. that he is a confident man that needs his time and I don't give him that. so, from what i gather from all of that, he wants a woman like his mother.
another interesting thing I took away - he brought up a text I had sent him a couple days ago...I had left for the morning and he had went to the gym. I told him not to wait for me to eat lunch because I didn't know when I was going to be home. I ended up coming home early because the person I was going to go visit ended up being busy, and when I got home, he wasn't there. I kindly sent him a text saying, "hey im home, where are you at? did you eat lunch or do you need me to fix you something?" he stated to me that he wasnt in any way mad at me for the text, but that growing up, whenever he asked his mom where his dad was at, she would say "I dont know." He thinks I should just be oblivious to whats going on with him I guess? HOWEVER: when I went out last night, after he got out of work, it was "hey you still out?" and then when I didn't answer, he called me, wanted to know where I was at, and when I was gonna be home....really?? then today, same thing. I mentioned I was going to town- "why are you going to town? what are you gonna do there?" There's a lot of contradiction. I don't want to address it because I fear this will just make him more angry at me than he already is with this whole situation.
