Hi Coly, I am doing as best as I can be, under the circumstances. One thing Job pointed out ages ago is the concept of time- I last saw H last week to give him a document he needed. It was a pleasant exchange. But to me, it feels like I haven't seen him in ages and ages and am anxious about the silence and impending papers but also wanting to make sure he is okay, etc . But to him, the depressed, trapped person, it probably feels like he just saw me three minutes ago and needs a month or two to decompress.
The frequent visits you had were probably a lot for him and not enough for you.
But, my H is leaving in a few months so there's much more of a line in the sand (I think) with his running and baking and being depressed or q/Mlcing whatever we call it, it is the unhappiness within him driving this train.
I am trying to find my own way, as you are doing too. Hang in there, and I agree with HaWho a walk or a coffee elsewhere --just less-- if you have the chance is probably best for the future, should you meet. It could be awhile.
hugs.
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me 42 H 32 T 7yr M 6yr BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY Separated 7/2016