not sure where you live but do you think Retrovaille is something you 2 could attend?
The one we attended did NOT push Catholicism in any way (h is not Catholic and actually is more or less atheist now). But it is for couples.
An individual workshop you may find extremely beneficial to you is called "Essential Experience" (aka "EE") and it's in Philadelphia.
Though it's geared towards individual growth and self actualization, that obviously benefits marriages.
It also helped me as a parent and in all my r's. H later went completely due to changes he saw within me.
At the time, I did not attend EE for marital issues. We were young, very busy but happy. I found myself bogged down in old family dynamics near my family of origin. So I went to EE for reasons other than my marriage. But boy, it sure made the bond I felt for H, deeper.
Anyhow, there's a website of theirs. I still see it as the single most profound learning experience I've had.
I'm not saying we didn't backslide, b/c we did. Permanent changes must be reinforced and checked. I'm just saying EE was super helpful to me, personally, and relationally.
I had gotten some IC and I really liked my IC. But For ME, weekly therapy was not very "efficient" b/c even when I had breakthroughs or insights, I had to leave after an hour, and pick up the kids or return to work. It was very fragmented.
And With h's schedule, taking a long weekend was far easier than taking weekly appointments off.
Just a thought. Many DBers have attended it and found it very helpful.
Hang in there.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
