Round 2

[Tryin2figuritout]

Woke up feeling ok. We had planned on family vacation at the beach with W's family and now it looks like I'll get half and W will get half. W says "I think they'd rather be with you than me right now". I'm just excited to be there with kidos. We should be in the apartment by this time too. Good space all around.

Talked this morning on two things: 1) Trip next year - My D13 will be finishing up grade school next year and we've been planning a trip to celebrate. Talked about keeping those plans for the 4 of us plus one of my D's friends. Don't see any reason not to keep these plans.

2) W told her cousin who brought up having outside relationships interfere with our current stich. I told W to do what she wants, but my plan is to just work on me. Having space to being alone is real important right not IMHO. I confess that I did recommend not mixing a relationship in with the process of healing, but reiterated that she can do what she wants.

For the outside relationship talk, do you think that was handled right? Any type of "thou shalt not", etc. to me would be too needy, clingy.

It's hard to navigate this stuff and feel confident, but it's all about improving myself and damn everything else. I put the best I have to offer out there and let the chips fall where they may.

Any advice, comments, etc. welcomed!!