The lists of things to consider has had me thinking (considering).
Betsy,
I just want to reiterate that I came to this point in my relationship. Husband was stalling out of fear. He knew he didn't want to lose me, but was scared to come home.
I told him, "At this point, I don't feel like my life would change all that much if we got divorced. You and I have so little interaction in each others lives. I'm ready, whichever way you decide. But you must decide."
And he did.
I told him recently that I was torn. I felt sad for all the time we were separated...but that I felt like it was good for us. And that I was having a difficult time reconciling those conflicting feelings.
He smiled. Said he understood. And said, "That time away from you made me cherish you more."
Conflict resolved.
Just to make sure my opinion is absolutely clear to all who read this.
I think giving this sort of push to choose one way or the other, only is in your interest if you have been doing some solid DBing for several months.
If you have not given your Walk Away a new image of you, a better, stronger, happier image...then forcing them to make a decision will only backfire.
