You are doing just fine! I think it is great that you are pouring your heart out to your H and telling him how you feel and the "Deal Breakers" as well. There comes a point in your life when enough is enough.
Many of us are in the same sitch as you and I truly believe that "Actions" speak louder than words. If he is on the fence, go over and kick him off by doing things that show you are moving on. It does work, it has worked for me in the past with my W. They come back running, but you better be ready to not fold. Make sure that when he does come back, he faces his demmons and don't let him into your life until the two of you are "Healed".
We all believe in you, you can do it and you know what? We are the strong ones. I too thought like you, I though that my W was the rock and I leaned on her too much. She wasn't strong enough. It took me this entire year to figure out that I am the rock of our R. I always sold myslef short. I hope that you don't sell yourself short.
Man, I've never heard of a fish called Caprice. Must be some Rocky Mountain Oyster reference Merrick.
Oh and by the way, I changed my name cause I had to out this thread to my W's L during our depositions. LOL It's the only name I could come up with fast enough when I rushed home to change it.
CB PS If you don't know who I am, we had a roof top rendevous a few weeks ago. LOL
I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts,that laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death
